Kellie S. Ffrench, Ph.D., P.A.
Marriage is often complex enough when both individuals share similar religious and cultural backgrounds. Even without these differences, personal expectations are sometimes at odds with each other. Questions such as “Who will be in charge of the housework?”, “Do we want children? And how many?” and “How will we handle finances?” may go unanswered as a couple plans their wedding.
Now, add to that questions about spiritual beliefs and cultural practices, and things get much more complicated!
I would like to tell you about my own success story of an interfaith marriage. My husband and I are an interfaith couple, and when we were thinking about getting married I was astounded by the lack of resources available to interfaith couples!
Fortunately, after a lot of soul-searching and research, we were able to successfully discuss and develop a family approach for our religious and cultural beliefs that felt like a mutually satisfying agreement. Vital to our success has been a framework that we maintain to help us manage ongoing situations and effectively address new challenges.
But what about the couples that have the desire, but don’t have the knowledge or tools to enter their marriage on the same page about religion or culture?
Based on my personal journey and clinical experience, I have developed a service for couples that have the desire to enter their marriage on the same page, but may not know where to start.
The success of a marriage depends on many things – including AWARENESS OF EXPECTATIONS, EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION, and WILLINGNESS TO COMMIT to a shared life. Interfaith and intercultural couples face a unique challenge of deciding how the family as a whole will reflect their individual expectations and beliefs.
If You Are In An Interfaith or Intercultural Relationship And Would Like A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE,
You Can Make it Work With The RIGHT TOOLS
In this program, you will learn about:
1. Your individual religious and cultural beliefs and commitment.
2. Each other’s expectations about day-to-day living as well as more significant events.
3. Areas for negotiation and areas that are non-negotiable.
4. Effective communication tools to discuss and negotiate expectations and plans.
5. How to create a REALISTIC and MUTUALLY AGREEABLE family plan, for all stages of your life together.
Important Information To Know About Interfaith And Intercultural Relationships:
1. Religion and culture are often deeply intertwined and difficult to separate. Successful couples acknowledge and respect both aspects.
2. A successful interfaith/intercultural couple requires commitment and openness to each other’s perspective.
3. What will work for one couple may not work for another. It is important for each couple to decide what will work best for them.
4. Important life events, such as marriage or children, often bring beliefs and expectations - that you may not even be aware of - to the surface.